The more you reveal about yourself to your friends, the more vulnerable you gets but this is how friendship works. You know it's risky to trust every single friend but this is the only way you will know who is the one that you can entrust your secrets and thoughts with. The one that will never judge or leave you no matter how different your opinions or background can be. You know some friends only 'friend' people who thinks and acts the same as them? I mean what's the probability of meeting someone who is identical to you in terms of thoughts and behaviour? Because living in a place where everyone is different makes understanding each other perspective harder and that's why we often tend to lose our self and act like the 'common' or 'usual' people that everyone can understand and befriend you. Then when we see other people who act differently from the norms, we think they're weird and strange without thinking in their shoes that maybe we ourselves might be the weird one. Therefore, in order to 'protect' our self, we keep all our inner opinion to ourselves and try to act the way the public will accept. How many of you can find friends that you can tell all your honest opinions to and even they might not agree with you but will spend some effort and time to understand your point of view AND even support you? Plus even they don't agree, they will tell you their honest opinion on the matter but still won't force you to think the same as them. It's really nice to know different perspective to certain matter so you get to know more 'infos'. I'm really happy I managed to have at least 2 of such BFFs. Someone that I can tell everything I think and they won't find me weird. They know about my past, the younger me when I did all the nonsense and stupid stuffs without thinking and still accept me for who I am and used to be. Before knowing one of them, I always try my best to fit in any clique of friends and try not to stand out of the norms. Even when I knew about the truth but in order to not get into 'trouble' with the bigger clique of friends, I kept quiet and let that friend got wronged. That's how I used to be, but now I realised is important to know what you're thinking and don't get too affected by what other people will think of you. At least you won't lose yourself in the process of trying to make more friends. Know what's right and wrong and act like yourself, maybe people will like you more instead of being too artificial.
So don't judge and befriend with only people that act or think exactly like you, accept others who are different because they are being true to themselves. There is no right or wrong in different personality. We are born different so we can all be special and unique.
Okay, pardon my broken english. Byeeee.
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